My son is currently screaming and crying in his bedroom. Why? On the surface, it's because his flashlight doesn't work. What it's really about, though, is that daddy is gone again.
This past weekend, when the husband was here, the kids had a great time and instantly bonded with him again. I turned to him at one point and said, "This is going to be awful when you leave."
Sure enough, Monday night, I wound up with the two weest of our wee ones screaming in my lap and the bigger pair doing their best emo teen impressions.
I've done this oh so many times. I know how this works. I know my kids and I know it's going to suck.
At one point this weekend, I turned to my husband and asked, "When do I get to go away so you can see what this is like?"
I don't actually want to be away from the kids (although a night out would be heavenly). I know that's awful. My husband left Active Duty because changes in his career field meant he would be away from the family far too much. I just want some equality in this parenting situation.
When we speak on the phone, I'll relay something the kids have done (because they miss daddy) and my husband will ask, "Why the hell did he/she do that?" Sometimes he'll tell me, "But that doesn't make any sense." It, however, makes perfect sense when you're a kid and you miss your daddy. It also makes sense to a parent who has been through this so very many times.
I am not at all surprised by the fact that I needed to take a break from writing this post to hold a little boy as he cried. I was heartbroken, but not surprised when the youngest headed to my bedroom yesterday morning and declared, "I go get daddy." As we left the airport in the dark early Monday morning, I had to listen closely to hear the oldest sniffling in the back seat, but I heard it.
I don't want my kids to ache for a parent they love who can't be here. I don't want to be away from them myself. I just wish the husband could understand. I wish he would know what this was like (for me and the kids). I wish that I didn't have to be the only one rocking screaming children and wiping away tears.